Life Update

Life Update

Can you believe it’s APRIL?!?!?!🙀Was it not just New Year’s?! This year is already a quarter of the way through and it’s blowing my mind…

Marley girl is almost 2! 😭TWO!! 3 more months and it’ll be July (shut the front door! 😬)! She’s a walking, talking (in her own crazy language, of course, with a couple actual words thrown in🙈), wild and crazy (very crazy), bright little bundle of energy and I just love her to pieces! Parker just had her 5th birthday and I’m slightly freaking out that she’s starting kindergarten this 😳year!  Life is happening. These girls are getting big. And I’m so proud of them😚! …minus Marley’s hefty meltdowns and tantrums lately😒.. Those can go eff off✌🏼

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The husband. He’s gotten into gardening. It started with succulents. Those succers are so rad (see what I did there🙊lol). But seriously, the whole family is into it now. And I love that we have something we’re all really fascinated by😍. Watching those little cuttings grow little babies. We look so forward to looking at the plants every day☺️lol. And then we decided we could try and do some herbs (chives, cilantro, oregano, basil) and then some veggies (mini red peppers, sweet cherry tomatoes, and corn. Yes. Corn. P’s obsessed and she’s just too stinkin cute that we decided to grow corn for her). It’s so fun! We have quite the succulent propagation going, we’ll have to see what we’re going to do with all of them! Maybe I could do a giveaway? Any succulent lovers out there?!

As for me, I’ve caught a thrift store bug. Nate and I went to a few around our town looking for things to plant our cute succulents in, and though they can be a bit of a mess to search through (some things are like😒👎🏼 ‘ew how long has this thing been collecting dust’ and others are like 😍🙌🏼‘you spark joy in me’ and my heart flutters because everything’s like 2.99 or .65 orrr 1.99😮 (and I dunno about you, but this mama likes a good deal!) we found so much stuffffff! Mind blown! So many actual pots for plants with drainage, really nice baskets, wood boxes😍😍😍.. Just a lot of really cool, random stuff that we could put our succulents in. So, of course, I’ve gone back a few times, and realized that with a good eye, and patience, there’s a good amount of some really nice clothing hidden in the rows and rows!🙌🏼 I came home and I was like “Babe… I don’t think I’ll ever be able to buy another piece of clothing for less than 2.99”😂lol he was pretty stoked about it to say the least.

So life is pretty cool💪🏼. Everyone is finally getting better after being sick all last week (ugh, it basically feels like we’ve been sick off and on since November!😣). Easter break is next weeeeeeek🐰🐣 and during that week, the hubs and I are going to the Taking Back Sunday show on the 17th💃🏼💃🏼💃🏼😁😁😁 (eeeeek!)! And then it’ll be Easter.

I mean… anyone else mind boggled?! Easter already?! What’s next? I gotta google this.. oh duh🙈, Mother’s Day! lol well that’s exciting😊!

Anyone else feel like this year is going by way faster than last?!

working from home

working from home

Sometimes being a stay at home mom, you get so preoccupied taking care of everything and always thinking of what’s next or how can I help, what can I do, that before you know it the whole week went by! With the new year (already flying by!) my husband and I decided to introduce a budget in to our life so we can begin to stack that paper and start saving for our baby’s lifestyle, college, a house, god forbid an accident or whatever! It’s good to have a savings.  Our goal is to (eventually, it’s a work in progress!) live off of last month’s paychecks, and save as well… And man! The beginning was hard! We use an app called YNAB (you need a budget), and it’s awesome! You track every penny that comes in and every penny that goes out. And as a SAHM and being the one who usually runs the errands and spends, I felt the need to contribute somehow and make cuts where I could.  And with my almost 11 month old running around, taking care of the house, and feeding everyone… I felt defeated.

I tried Amazons Mechanical Turk, making pennies (literally pennies!) per little job I would finish online.  I know some people make decent money doing this, but I can’t sit on the computer doing timed jobs unless it was during nap time, and for some reason I feel like she napped shorter every time I tried to get work in!  So I made .13… awesome… so I called it quits with that because this mama don’t got any time for that! Then I read and researched other at home jobs I could do and came across being a virtual assistant. Awesome, I thought! Then I read the requirements… the one’s I found want you to work full time 9-5… and I can’t guarantee my teething child wont scream if I need to be on the phone… not to mention I don’t know some of the programs some sites require you to know… so.. there went that.  Then I saw you can get paid to do surveys! Cool, I love surveys (I’m weird, yada yada lol)! But the more I tried to do surveys, some weren’t available to me, and most were trying to get me to just buy things. So F word… I spent 2 pointless weeks trying to make some money and literally just wasted precious time with my baby girl and lots of unnecessary added stress.

Things were not bad at home, we were still eating all the delicious yummy (healthy!) meals I make (meal planning helps tremendously cut down a grocery bill when you know exactly what you’re going to make and what you need to make it, instead of just buying whatever and hoping to make stuff out of it), getting out on the weekends , gas in the vehicles, diapers, formula.. we were doing just fine! We were just being more aware of what was being spent (and not spending frivolously on coffees and random grocery/target stops) and allotted a certain amount of money towards groceries, each bill, spending money, and spending wisely, knowing where each dollar spent was going. I just wanted to try and contribute. But my husband reminded me that I do contribute. I take care of this family. I take care of this house. I take care of business every day, my biggest job being our beautiful daughter, then all the household stuff, making all the meals, cleaning, laundry, running errands, taking the dog on a walk, trash (so much trash! normal trash, recycling, litter, diapers!), and so so much more that each new day throws my way. I take care of it. And I needed that reminder. It’s never a good feeling to feel like you don’t contribute… but it’s always a great feeling when your reminded of how much you do do and how much you’re appreciated and how much you really do contribute. So don’t be so hard on yourself. And enjoy being the super mom/wife you are 🙂

…who knew?!

…who knew?!

So I thought I had a pretty clear understanding on babies.  Before my little girl entered the world, I read books, blogs, websites, I’m an auntie to 3 nephews and a niece, I have quite a few friends with babies… and I gotta say… after nesting, setting up the nursery, and trying to prepare as much as humanly (and insanely lol) possible, I felt pretty good and ready for what was to come!  And then she came!  Parker Mae was born March 13, 2014 at 3:52 PM (smooth and easy delivery..maybe not easy, but there was no screaming and I actually really enjoyed the whole experience) and was the most beautiful newborn I’d ever laid eyes on.  7 lbs 5 oz, 19 1/2 inches of cuteness overload.  I’m pretty sure my husband and I gazed at her for hours on end!  Of course I wanted to breastfeed.  And it went great!  …Until we switched sides (it begins!)… and then it was difficult.. as for everything else such as recoupinnng, changing diapers, being up every 2-3 hours feeding, the sleeplessness – I think I was on cloud 9 and nothing could really keep me down…except when I would try and feed on my left side (that kept me down quite often actually).  It was tough!  So I saw a lactation consultant and got a bit of a grip on it (literally! the football hold! lol) and that helped a lot.  But!  I lasted 2 weeks breastfeeding at home and then began pumping because a) I was exhausted and needed some breaks and b) it just wasn’t going that great and was more a struggle then a success.  So that’s okay!  Pumping was actually really great!  Got a stock pile going, thanks from the help of a beautiful beautiful friend (I would have been lost without her!) teaching me the ways of pumping (before her help, I was a hot mess bawling my eyes out from only pumping 1-2 oz!) but! I got the hang of it!  The thing that I didn’t get the hang of was the crying!  Blind sided by it when P was around 3 weeks old.  Every evening. Around 4-5 PM (sometimes earlier)… NON. STOP.  That’s right… colic. Didn’t see that coming.  I fell to pieces 😦 I just felt shattered, as did my husband (who was also back at work after 2 weeks!).  We tried everything.  I changed my diet to cut out anything possibly upsetting her tummy, we tried the Five S’s, music, driving around, vacuuming..anything and everything!  But after weeks (2) of this, and writing and seeing the pediatrician for anything that I could do to make this subside quicker, he suggested that we could give formula a shot and mix it half breast milk half formula (negatorrrry – did not work!)…then we tried just formula (I was crushed). All my hard work pumping the liquid gold (which felt like the majority of my day), and knowing its benefits and that I was providing her with the nutrition she needed, and the free part…  But I was desperate for my baby to be happy.  And for my husband and I to be happy.  We were all miserable.  And I felt like I couldn’t bond because I was hooked up to my pump, and when I wasn’t pumping my little was either sleeping or crying (rip my heart outtt) 😦  And only formula was still upsetting her tummy and she couldn’t go to the bathroom (jussst perfect, add another problem why dontcha?!)  😦  Then her pediatrician suggested a hypoallergenic formula, Nutramigen.  LIFE.  CHANGER.  P was 9 weeks old and, at last, I had a happy…  TRULY HAPPY, smiling, baby!  And my husband was happy, and I was BEYOND (over the moon!) happy!  I was free of a pumping schedule, my baby wasn’t crying more than half the day, I could finally leave the house without worrying about P exploding, and finally majorly enjoying my family!

And I must say overcoming colic and going through the motions and doing everything and anything I possibly could to make my baby feel better has really helped me in the long run with what more was to come.  There was crib training, and nighttime sleep training, teething!, nap training (and not falling asleep only in the swing training! lol).. there was so much more!  Who knew?!  I thought I read everything and soaked in as much as I could (Which I did, I really tried!)!  But really, you learn as you go.  And you shouldn’t feel bad (I know I did, I kicked myself all the time… because I should know everything, right?! Hah! NO!).  P and I and my husband, we all learned together and pulled together and it was a team effort!  And we rock and rolled through the motions and I must say I’m quite proud of my little family!  Parker is a dream now!  And I don’t think I’d feel this way (that she’s so easy – she’s always going to be my dream come true 🙂 she has taught me so so much) unless I had to go through that somewhat traumatizing, yet oh so educational and mind blowing experience, that we can do this.  It takes a village they say, and family is your village.  Pull together and not apart.  Because once you pull apart it makes it 10 x’s harder to pull it back together.  Communicate, listen to yourself, listen to each other, pick up on and follow cues.  Be patient!  And love the hardest you’ve ever loved and appreciate it.  At the end of the day, it’s what gets you through 🙂